We each have a story to tell.
A blame story that is.
These are the stories we tell ourselves as to why our life is not the way we want it to be.
It’s who and what we assign fault to for our problems and struggles.
It’s the stories of “they did it to me”.
They are our reasons as to why we fall short.
They stem from incidents and events that happened to us that we ultimately define ourselves by.
Maybe it was something in childhood.
Maybe it was that relationship that ended badly.
Maybe it’s something more general like our religious or cultural upbringing.
Or our family’s financial status or the friends we had growing up.
Maybe it’s blaming our parents for the qualities about ourselves that we wish were different.
:: Blame Story ::
Our excuse for why we yell, scream, and react unconsciously.
These are the stories that no matter what happens in our lives that we always seem to go back to.
It’s how we explain away our anxieties, fears, and limitations.
They become so conditioned that they lodge themselves into our identity — eventually, becoming the fabric of our personality.
It’s how we come to know ourselves as.
Now, they’ve turned into self-fulfilling prophecies as we unconsciously attract people, events, and circumstances that reaffirm our story.
When this happens, we now created “mini-stories” — stories within the story that causes us to re-experience the same frustrations, fear, anxiety, and chaos from the original incident.
It might take place in a different setting with new characters and different plot twists but it’s essentially the same old story.
It’s a fresh take on that age-old tale of blame that runs roughshod through our life.
Multiplying and mutating so quickly without us even realizing it, these stories actually begin to serve a purpose now.
They validate our anxieties, fears, and worries.
They justify our belief that our life isn’t fair and in the process stripping us of all responsibility for our lives.
Our story of blame is actually comforting because it keeps us forever as a child — putting the control, care, and responsibility for the state of our life on something or in someone else’s hands.
But most of all our blame story keeps us forever anchored in feeling like a victim.
This soon becomes our default mode preventing us from living a real-life by moving us further away from our true divine nature: the ability to consciously create our lives.
So ask yourself… what is your blame story and are you willing to let it go?
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