Sometimes we are way too stubborn to notice the signs.
Every day in the most subtle ways the Universe is gently nudging us to grow and evolve.
When your boss assigns you the same stupid monotonous tasks that make you want to quit… the Universe is nudging.
When you scroll through social media and feel bad because everyone else is getting more likes and comments than you… the Universe is nudging.
When you keep having that same disagreement with your partner… the Universe is nudging.
Little reminders like these are sprinkled throughout our days but most of the time they go unnoticed or flat out ignored.
And when we keep letting them go by the wayside, over time, the Universe might just smack us on the back of the head to get us to wake up and address these issues.
This can come in the form of a major life crisis—and might be exactly what we need to stop being so stubborn and recognize the path of growth in front of us. Because let’s face it, you can do all the inner work and dedicate yourself to self-improvement, yet there will be destruction in your life.
Maybe not literally, but life will undoubtedly throw you a haymaker and all hell will break loose.
In his book, The Code of the Extraordinary Mind, Vishen Lakhiani refers to these moments of upheaval as “The Beautiful Destruction”. It’s a period where we encounter chaos, massive struggle, and what could seem like the dissolution of everything certain in our life.
However, this eventually becomes a “clearing out” of what is merely good or no longer serving our highest self so something greater can be ushered in.
And this is what makes it beautiful:
Sometimes the Universe has to destroy a part of your life to allow the next great thing to enter. — Vishen Lakhiani
Spiritual teacher and author Dr. Michael Bernard Beckwith defines these types of trials and tribulations as kensho moments.
Essentially it’s the gradual revelation of growth and insight that comes via pain and suffering. This means the “beautiful” part will not be apparent to us while we are actually going through them.
In fact, we most likely don’t awaken to the greater meaning from these ordeals until way after we’ve been taken to the woodshed.
You unexpectedly lose that great job and go through a period of financial hardship but…
It eventually teaches you a lesson in how blessed you truly are.
You suffer through a trying health issue but…
It leads you to start taking better care of your body.
You are betrayed by someone close to you but…
It allows you to uncover resilience and an ability to forgive that you didn’t know you had.
All of these difficulties are there to teach us something valuable and hopefully elevate our consciousness — leading us to new ways of thinking, feeling, and showing up in the world.
Earlier last year I woke up one morning with limited vision and eventually required surgery on both my eyes. It was a scary couple of weeks, to say the least. This ordeal was a smack in the head reminding me of how fragile life is and how at anytime my world can change. I was forced to slow down and start appreciating the mere simple blessings in life like having eyes to see, legs to walk, and ears to hear.
It was like getting to see the world with a fresh pair of eyes. Literally. And now life has never looked so beautiful.
However, we’re conditioned to resist anything that distresses us in life. We find ourselves kicking and screaming — seeing it as a devasting catastrophe—which only blinds us from the lesson that we are being summoned to learn.
In turn, we only create further suffering.
But when we embrace the beautiful destruction, we eliminate our suffering.
“When meaning is given to suffering, it ceases to become suffering.” — Viktor Frankl
The beautiful destruction isn’t just reserved for these major life setbacks. Sometimes it’s the parts of our lives that are seemingly ok that need to be destroyed.
Throughout our spiritual path, we will find ourselves holding onto aspects of our lives that no longer align with the person we want to become because we are afraid of the fallout.
Even if these parts are not directly having a negative impact on us, we opt for the safety of the status quo. Maybe it’s a relationship or friendship that deep down you know has run its course. Maybe it’s a career or business you put a lot of time and energy into that just doesn’t excite you anymore.
If these things were to end, then what? Who would we be?
Much like those major struggles and setbacks we resist these indicators and in this case, by ignoring them.
However, when we see these parts of our lives teetering and hanging on by a thread, it might be a sign from the Universe that it’s time to let them go and allow the beautiful destruction to take place.
You’d be surprised how embracing this perspective can help pull you out of some stressful times. They have for me.
Ultimately, we always have two choices when shit hits the fan in life.
And if we choose the latter and embrace the beautiful destruction, we surrender to the infinite possibilities of good trying to emerge in our lives.
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