It was my first day working on my new course on identity shifting. I was sitting in a small corner café —…
Over the past several years, I’ve received dozens of emails from readers asking real, vulnerable questions about manifestation, worthiness, and becoming the version of themselves they know they’re meant to be.
Some were just beginning. Others had been meditating and visualizing for years, but still felt stuck, frustrated, or unsure why nothing seemed to shift.
This edition is a reflection of those questions — and a roadmap through the doubts, blocks, and misunderstandings that often get in the way.
So if you’ve ever found yourself wondering…
- “Am I doing this right?”
- “Why isn’t it working yet?”
- “How do I actually embody the version of me I know I’m meant to be?”
You’re not alone.
Below you’ll find five of the most common questions I’ve received — along with the answers that helped the most — plus a simple framework you can start using today to release the patterns keeping you stuck and begin living in alignment with your future self.
1. “How hard do I need to push to change?”
“I’ve been eating clean, exercising, and doing the inner work, but I still feel stuck in the same body. Should I be cutting more, pushing harder, or is that just a limiting belief?”
Answer:
- If you’re constantly trying to “fix” something, your energy is saying, “I’m broken.”
- When we chase change from self-rejection, we stay stuck in the very identity we’re trying to outgrow.
- Identity shifting starts not with intensity, but with loving acceptance of who you are right now.
- Ask yourself: Am I trying to fix this part of me or love it into transformation?
- Sometimes the body (or life) doesn’t shift until you stop needing it to prove your worth.
Takeaway:
You don’t need to go harder. You need to go deeper — into acceptance, into love, into the part of you that’s been waiting to feel safe enough to let go.
2. “Should I stop visualizing if it’s not working?”
“I’ve visualized this goal almost every day for months. I believe in it, and I want it more than anything. But it’s not here yet. Am I holding on too tight?”
Answer:
- You don’t manifest by repeating the desire. You manifest by practicing being the version of you who already has it.
- Over-visualizing can create resistance — like asking the Universe, “Are we there yet?” over and over. Worse, it subtly signals doubt to your nervous system.
- Once you’re clear on what you want and why, it’s time to let go and begin living your life as if it’s already unfolding, even before the evidence shows up.
Takeaway:
It’s not about how many times you visualize. It’s about how deeply you trust. Let go, and let life catch up to who you’ve already decided to become.
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3. “Can identity shifting really help when I’m broke?”
“I’m in a tough place financially right now. How can I shift into abundance when everything around me says I don’t have enough?”
Answer:
- Your outer world is a mirror of your inner identity — not the other way around.
- You can’t wait until after the money shows up to feel abundant. You have to feel it now.
- Start by noticing how you think, speak, and act. Does it reflect abundance? Or lack?
- Gratitude, presence, and faith are not empty spiritual buzzwords—they’re powerful, energetic choices that can begin to rewire your reality.
Takeaway:
At any time, you can shift into abundance by changing your thoughts, your energy, and your way of being — even if your bank account hasn’t caught up yet.
4. “What does ‘becoming’ actually look like in real life?”
“I get the idea of identity shifting, but what does it look like in real life when someone goes from survival mode to living as their future self?”
Answer:
- They become deeply aware of their unconscious patterns and practice catching themselves in the act, choosing a different response in real time.
- They ask: What would the version of me I’m becoming do right now?
- They rehearse a new state of being—practicing feeling empowered, free, confident, and joyous — even if it feels awkward at first.
- They give themselves permission to fail, to feel silly, and to keep going anyway.
Takeaway:
Becoming your future self isn’t a dramatic leap. It’s a quiet, daily practice of no longer being who you used to be and choosing to be different—until one day, the new you feels more natural than the old one.
5. “How do I stop believing the lies I told myself as a kid?”
“I used to believe I wasn’t smart enough. That I was a joke. That people would never take me seriously. I’ve done the work, but these beliefs still live in my body. How do I change that?”
Answer:
- The old story was never yours. It was inherited, absorbed, or created for survival.
- Your job isn’t to hate that story. It’s to outgrow it by telling yourself a better one.
- You can thank it for its lessons and for bringing you to this exact moment of transformation and awakening.
- Begin by naming the faulty beliefs that still live in your nervous system. Then write the truth beside it.
- Practice speaking, living, and choosing from this truth, not the lie — even when it feels unfamiliar.
Takeaway:
You don’t have to analyze and fix the past to become your future. You just have to stop giving your old identity the final say.
Still Sitting With a Few Questions of Your Own?
If you saw yourself in any of these questions, know that you’re not alone.
These are the very same questions I wrestled with for years — looping through visualizations, doubting my worth, trying to force change instead of becoming it.
That’s why I created the Identity Shifting Morning Practice — to help others navigate the same journey I’ve been on.
It’s a simple, powerful way to embody the version of you who already has the life you’re calling in — not through wishful thinking, but through identity-level change.
If you’re ready to stop asking, “Why isn’t it working yet?” and start living the answer each day… I’d love to see you inside the program.
Ready to live from the most powerful version of you?
My 10-lesson course, The Identity Shifting Morning Practice, guides you through a daily embodiment system to help you rewire your subconscious, regulate your nervous system, and start each day as the person you know you’re meant to be.
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